Pamela Starkie

  • Born: April 19, 1965
  • Died: November 20, 2021
  • Location: Washington, North Carolina

Joseph B. Paul Jr. Funeral Service

4500 US Hwy 264 East
Washington, NC 27889
Tel. 252.945.4500

Tribute & Message From The Family

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted."
Matthew 5:4

On Saturday, November 20, 2021, God called Pamela Marie Starkie home in her eternal rest.
Pamela, also known to most as Pam, was born in Washington, NC on April 19, 1965, to Herman and Emma Windley. Pam attended Beaufort County Schools in her early life, and later went on to graduate from Beaufort Community College and Mount Olive College. At the time of her passing, Pam was a dedicated employee of Washington Housing Authority, where all of her residents adored her. Pam loved the Lord and was a dedicated member of Mount Hebron Disciples Church of Christ. Pam enjoyed riding with her husband and the 95 East Touring Bikers Club. Pam also loved traveling with her husband, spending time with her loved ones, and helping anyone in need.
Pam leaves to cherish her memory: her husband of 22 years, Bennie "Jack" Starkie of Washington, NC; her parents, Herman and Emma Windley of Washington, NC; two sons, Wayne Windley of Washington, NC and Derek Lee (Me'Chele) of Raleigh, NC; one daughter, Latoya Bryant (Jamie) of Greenville, NC; three grandchildren, Clover Lee, Deren Lee, and Jaime Bryant; two sisters, Nita Williams (Ronald) of Washington, NC and Shirley Loomes of Chase City, VA; two brothers, Herman Windley Jr. of Raleigh, NC and Danny Windley Jr. of Washington, NC; mother in-law Mary Starkie of Chocowinity, NC; three God children, Quinteria Hill, Keith Keyes, and Keisha Clark, and a host of nieces, nephews, family, and friends.
Pam was proceeded in death by her brother, Danny Windley Sr.; her sister, Teresa Moore; and her grandmother Callie Mae Windley.


Condolence & Memory Journal

To the family, sorry for your loss. Just know God will continue to lead you forward and strengthen you daily. My family will continue to pray for you.

Posted by Eric/Tammy Thompson - Raleigh, NC - friend   December 26, 2021

My deepest condolences to the family.

Posted by Donna Gorham - Washington, NC - family   November 28, 2021


Rest in heaven sweet cousin Pam! I am going to miss you. I think about all the times we had when we attended Mount Olive College and family events. I love you, until we meet again.

Posted by MarQuella Thompson - Raleigh, NC - family   November 27, 2021

I will miss you my friend. I will never forget you Pam. My heart is heavy.

Posted by Carla chapman - Washington NC, NC - friend   November 27, 2021

Sorry for your loss Pam were a sweet lady we work together for some years at Donnelly Market until close down I enjoy working with her. Y 'all are in my prayers.

Posted by Pearlie Brown - Chocowinity, NC - coworker   November 26, 2021

Your dear mother was so loved and was so good to everyone who knew her. She will be missed by so many. Rest In Peace, dear friend We are going to miss you. I am so sorry for your loss, and I am sending a special prayer your way.

Posted by Ramona Marley - Liberty, NC - friend   November 26, 2021

You are going to be missed. We are praying for the family.
The Winters Family

Posted by Adriane Winters - Washington, NC - friend   November 26, 2021

Pam i will miss your calls and our talks on the phone. This has been a hard pill to swallow. To your family I send my prayers to you. Family stay strong I do know she loved you ALL.

Posted by Sandra Askew - Washington, NC - friend   November 26, 2021

Lord comfort the family in the time of sorrow a coworker.

Posted by Grace Peele - Washington, NC   November 25, 2021

Going to miss my cousin. Sending my love to all my family. Praying for you. Tink my heart goes out to you and Herman. xoxo

Posted by Raymond Spencer - Crestview, FL - family   November 25, 2021


Mrs. Pamela was our neighbor and was such a light in our neighborhood. She could make you laugh without trying. Her smile was contagious and I looked forward to seeing her & Jack. Whenever we would do something in the yard, we were always excited to wait and see what Jack & Pamela thought. Their opinion means so much to us. They will always be the best neighbors we have ever had. We will continue praying for peace and comfort for Jack and the family.

Posted by Ashley & Adam Howell - Washington, NC - neighbor   November 24, 2021


My deepest sympathies to the family my housing manager for Westbrook also co worker at Cox direct many years ago.
She will be deeply missed.

Posted by Alice Hopkins - Washington, NC - coworker   November 24, 2021

Pamela was such a pleasure to know. Sending love to her family at this sad time.

Posted by Pamela McVicker - Chocowinity, NC - coworker   November 24, 2021

Sending love to the family with peace and comfort and prayers.

Posted by Brenda Blackledge - Washington, NC - friend   November 23, 2021

We are deeply sorry for your loss. Please accept our deepest condolences to the family. Our prayers and thoughts are with you all. May God keep you strong and United through this tough time. We love you.

Posted by Johnny R. (Buddy) and Lois Credle - Cooksville, MD - family   November 23, 2021

One of my best memories of my cousin Pam was taking her to the Baltimore inner harbor and being caught in a crowd. We were all pushed together and she could not stop giggling, she had such an infectious laugh. We will miss you

Posted by Priscella and Christobel Carter - Baltimore County, MD - family   November 23, 2021

I still don’t understand it but I dare not question it, I’m gonna miss you so much and I’m gonna miss talking to you so much. My heart goes out to Jack, your boys, and other family members. RIP and know that you’ll always be in my heart❤

Posted by Keisha Clark - friend   November 23, 2021


Condolences and sympathy to the Family. Pamela was a beautiful person and will surely be missed. Rest in Peace.

Posted by Mary Gray - Washington, NC - friend   November 23, 2021

I love you auntie❤❤ Missing you so bad. Love fat nae

Posted by Shanea Greene - Havelock, NC - family   November 23, 2021


With deepest sympathy and condolences to the family. Pam was a beautiful person and will be missed dearly. Rest in Peace my girl love you much.

Posted by Joyce Moore - CHOCOWINITY - friend   November 23, 2021

In loving memory of a wonderful person. Pam, We will love you and miss you always. Prayers of strength for Jack and family

Posted by Minnie Farrow - Swanquarter, NC - friend   November 23, 2021

So sadden by the loss of Pamela! Worked with her for a while and she was always so sweet! Lord received another Angel!
Thoughts and prayers are with Jack and Family!!!

Posted by Carla Jennette - Greenville, NC - friend   November 23, 2021

So sorry for your loss, you all are in my prayers

Posted by Tonya Evans - Washington, NC - acquaintance   November 23, 2021


Better days are coming. Trust God and know that He "Never" makes mistakes. You will understand it better as time allows you to heal. You live life forward, but understand it backwards. If you need us, we are only a phone call away.

Posted by Pastor & Mrs. Michael Waters - Waters, NC - friend   November 23, 2021

I’m so sorry for your loss Uncle Jack. Praying for you!

Posted by Pamela Keyes - Winterville, NC - family   November 23, 2021


Alan and I are saddened to learn of Pams passing. Keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers. Such a sweet lady and resting easy in the arms of our maker.

Posted by Sheriff & Mrs. Alan Jordan - Washington, NC - friend   November 22, 2021

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